Who is Invited to your special Day?
A wedding is a big party celebrating the union of two people in love. The guests at a wedding should be the people you can't see yourself getting married without! These people include parents, siblings, family members, the wedding party and their spouses/plus one,and close friends. Weddings have a tendency to draw people to you, people you have not seen since you were in junior high school. The "Hey am I invited," line will be exhausted by the time your date arrives. To these "Hey am I invited" group, you have to put your foot down and tell them that your guest list has been set and you cannot add anyone else. Remember the bigger the group the more money you have to shell out.
There are other dilemmas to a guest list:
*Should I invite kids?
My advice is a wedding is no place for kids to run around.
*Should I invite my mother's long list of distant relatives/friends?
It really depends if it is in your budget. Now, if mom's paying then let her invite whoever she wants (within reason).
*Should I invite her because she invited me to her wedding?
There is no written rule that states that you have to invite "suzy" to your wedding because you attended hers. Ask yourself if this is a person you consider a friend and see yourself being friends with ten years from now.
*Plus ones
One word...DRAMA. I still have a "friend" who talking to me because she did not get a plus one at my wedding. NOT EVERYONE WILL GET A PLUS 1. If you have 20 work friends you want to invite and they want to all bring a date then your guest list and budget will sky rocket. People who are married, live together, or have been in long relationships should get a plus one. The other single people, it is up to the bride and groom if they want to extend that plus 1.
